Recap: We filed for divorce, lived together, slept together 5 months into it. He told me repeatedly he loved me. the reason for the filing as I previously wrote, was because my husband hates my oldest (22yr.)son,which he’s been his dad for 16 yrs. I was asked to "choose" b/n him and continuing to have a relationship with my son- who has some problems that he didn’t need his mother turning her back on him for. The caviot: I have raised my husband"s daughter which hasn’t been easy, unforgiving at times, but I am still her mother. I would never ask him to choose, I would have helped him in any way I could and do now.
In short, on the 6th month after my husband escalating to a degree noone could imagine, I signed myself and our 13yr old up for a divorce care class @ a local church. He followed us, intruded, made it diificult to return. 2weeks later he befriended a lady who sat across from us that was crying because of her own husband’s infidelity- who filed just 7 weeks before. In less than 3 weeks she & my husband arranged 2 dates, he sent her flowers and texts, then they landed in a budget chain hotel on the 2nd date. He still lived with me, he clearly was sneaking around and so was she. They knew they were married and they knew it was wrong. (There’s more detail in a previous post from me) Please read it from Friday. We dropped the divorce, are in marriage counseling.
This woman thinks I don’t know who she is, and I want to confront her or rather let her know that I am very aware of the pathetic "hook-up" circumstances and how low down I think she is. I am more pissed that she had the nerve to cross the line into my life, to believe one-sided drama & lies -that have since came forward, to "pretend" she/he were divorced, to pass judgement on me, to sleep with my husband and do to me what she was obviously crying about was done to her in the first meeting. Insecure, desparate, needy? Playing the comfort me, rescue me victim and my husband randomly trying to reassert an ego thru detached sexual gratification? I have the letter written. Incidentally, my husband is accountable and has taken responsibilty. I know he is ashamed of himself- he shows it. This hussy thinks she got silently away with something. I would like her to feel her shame. Let me know what you think.
I’d have addressed this issue in front of the divorce group to make her squirm or, if that’s no longer possible, I’d "mention" it the next time I bump into one or three of the group’s leaders. You should confront her in front of other people, like her (ex)husband, as she possesses a lot of cunning and doesn’t sound like the type to stop if she can weasel her way out of something.
- Pepper.
