does this girl still want to be my friend base on her responses?
Friendship messed up due to mistakes on both sides and I wanted to fix our friendship. So I had been apologizing to this girl saying I am sorry for telling her to get out out my life. I tried calling, emailing, sending i am sorry flowers but she never responded. so I backed off for a while and then called her again, she replied by text "just please forget about the whole thing once n for all, I forgive you, please stop saying you are sorry", I asked her is our friendship too damaged to be normal again, she replied "no its not". Days later I tried to arrange a phone call where we simply talk as friends as 1st step moving on, but she texted back saying "I dont think I can talk with you on the phone rightnow, I am not convinced you are over everything from last summer". then she went silent when i tried to contact her again
so what is up? My mom says my friend feels too guility to face me rightnow because 1. she avoided me and made me depressed, putting me through so much misery. 2. she lied to me and then went behind my back and talked to other people. So my friend just cant talk to me as a friend rightnow because everytime I tries to contact her, she feels extremely bad about what happened and just cant face me
i mean if she doesnt want to be my friend anymore, she couldve said "yes" when I asked her if our friendship too damaged to be normal again… but then the silence just confuses me
You don’t mention the details of what exactly went on between you both so unsure if she is feeling guilt and can’t face you. I just think back off a little, the ball is in her court so to speak, She knows how you feel and therefore if she wants to rekindle the friendship she will in her own time. Sometimes we just have to let things go and move on. If it’s meant to be it will be!
June 14th, 2010 at 5:55 pm
You don’t mention the details of what exactly went on between you both so unsure if she is feeling guilt and can’t face you. I just think back off a little, the ball is in her court so to speak, She knows how you feel and therefore if she wants to rekindle the friendship she will in her own time. Sometimes we just have to let things go and move on. If it’s meant to be it will be!
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June 14th, 2010 at 6:37 pm
If she’s so hesitant like this and doesn’t want to have a conversation with you, it doesn’t sound like she wants to repair things.
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June 14th, 2010 at 7:09 pm
I would say she does want to get back together with you, since she did say that she forgives you, yet she is too unsure of herself. She still thinks you might say mean words to her and she is "buying some time" to see how she feels about everything. When you first said to her to get out of your life and then you start to apologize and sending her flowers, you got confused: she’s thinking " He’s telling me to get out of my life, now he is apologizing and saying he wants to be friends again" you know.
Just give her time to think about what you said, but at the same time keeping telling her your sorry. Next time this happens choose your words wisely. Like besides saying "Get out of my life" say " Give me time to think or let me be by myself for a while."
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My own personal experience
June 14th, 2010 at 7:36 pm
I think that it is a waste of your time to even be wasting energy on wondering if someone like that, even wants to be your friend. The definition of a friends, is someone you can rely on. Someone you can go to for help and feel comftable talking to. This is soooo not what a friend is, or even how a potential friendship should be starting out as. You shouldn’t have to second guess people like that. Just find new friends or a new friend. If your confident and NICE then you should not have a problem.
I hope it all goes well for you.
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