How to Make Beautiful Flower Arrangements

I’m getting nagged to leave my daughter with her Dad’s family more often. I really dont want to do this because I just dont trust that they will take care of her properly. His mother is disabled and drops things sometimes, she cant hold a saucepan to lift it off the hob some days, she needs help mashing potatoes and yet she says she can take care of my baby ten hours a day so I can go to work. She also keeps going on holiday for weeks at very short notice and has to go to hospital every tuesday for blood tests and other treatments. She does flower arranging and catering for weddings when she has good days and is always zooming around the place doing errands and giving people lifts. I dont know most of the people she hangs around with, they could be anybody. She said on days she is busy she could find one of them to take care of my baby. I wouldnt know where my baby was, or who she was with from one day to the next! She also thinks ice cream and chocolate are all a baby needs to eat for lunch.
My partner’s sister is a nursery nurse. Last time I let her look after my baby was when they phoned me and told me they were coming over to see the baby. I said she needs to be fed, its lunchtime, come round after that. She said "oh Wait till I get there, I want to feed her." For some reason I tok her at her word. 2pm they finally got there, the baby was crying from hunger and I was about to give up. When they got here she took one look at the baby’s lunch and said "it looks horrible it will make me feels sick if I feed her that. I thought you’d give her something nice so I could eat it" So my baby had waited for her lunch for nothing! I fed her while they were there, then they dragged me out to the shopping centre so they could have a go at pushing her in her stroller. Well the baby got bored. She was crying and upset but they would NOT let me get to her to see what was wrong. They (my partner’s sister and her mum, the disabled one) just kept walking off and wouldnt give her back! The whole shop was getting annoyed from the noise, then the sister just said "god doesnt she ever shut up, I’m getting p!ssed off, here you have her back, we’re going for something to eat" then they left me there trying to comfort the baby while they went off to the sandwhich shop. She also refuses to change nappies. She was telling me the other day about how she was looking after next door’s 1 yr old and her young cousin. She wanted to go into a shop so she left the baby with the little kid to wander up and down the high street while she shopped for shoes or something!
When they want to see the baby we usually have to chase them around to find out what pub they are currently in. Whilst we are there the sister usually passes my baby round like a parcel to people I have never met, she tries to give her alcohol becasue "its good for her gums when she’s teething" and get the other kids there to hold her too. I get told I’m an over worried clingy mmother and my child will grow up to be antisocial.
Would YOU trust these people? Am I being an overprotective nutter because I think they would look after themselves with the baby in tow rather than looking after the baby, or am I right?
PS thanks for reading all my rant, sorry it’s so long.

You didn’t need all these explanations or all the drama – all you need to say is that her health problems and her underdeveloped sense of responsibility make her unsuitable. Then you’ve answered your own question!
No-one in their right mind would leave a baby with this woman – I wouldn’t trust her with my cat!
You aren’t being over-protective, you’re being sensible.
"She was crying and upset but they would NOT let me get to her to see what was wrong" – she’s your child, take her off them if necessary. Never allow anyone to dictate to you like this, especially when your child is distressed. Put your foot down.

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